Monday, April 13, 2009

Requiem

I must tell you about two of my son's very best and dearest childhood friends, Tommy and Kyle. The three of them met and became close through many years of Babe Ruth baseball. There were trials and tribulations, but through it all they remained (and are still) close. Tommy and Kyle have the added cache of not only sharing a birthday, but that their moms were roommates (they didn't know each other at the time) in the maternity ward when the two of them were born. 

Bly got a call from Tommy last weekend. Tommy's dad had very suddenly and unexpectedly passed away. He was 51.
 
Bly got a call from Kyle this Sunday morning. Kyle's dad had very suddenly and unexpectedly passed away. He was 53.

GB and I were talking about all of this last night and I told him how upset Bly sounded. GB wondered why, because though Bly knew both men, he wasn't particularly close to either of them. I said I thought Bly is emotional because he's just witnessed two of his closest friends losing their fathers and it makes him think about losing his own dad, who happens to be older than both of those men, something he simply couldn't imagine until now. 

Say what you need to say.

xoabb
 

16 comments:

  1. I'm sorry about both deaths, and can understand why that would upset Bly. Parents are suppose to be invincible and not get old. It makes us feel older, too. I don't know what the survey thing is on your blog that floats up and down in the way, but its sort of annoying. Feels like something to be avoided.

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  2. Very sad. And a wake up call to us about our heart health. Hugs to Bly.

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  3. It's sad when our children realize that death is a part of life - even when it is the life of someone they consider "young."

    Hugs to Bly.

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  4. I can't help but be amazed at all the circumstances/coincidents....and yes, Bly is getting the picture that you guys won't be there forever.

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  5. I'm shocked at the coincidences too...and such young ages. It's a scary thing for Bly. Please give him a hug from me too, Annie.

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  6. This is such a bizarre coincidence. How awful for the two young men to lose their fathers at such a young age. I cannot imagine.
    God Bless those families and hugs to your son.

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  7. Gosh that would be hard to take.

    Of course he is thinking how it would feel to lose his father. We are not invincible or immortal. We know it - we just deny it don't we?

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  8. how very sad for young people to lose their father's so very young. it hurts no matter the age, but it seems so tragic as they are young.

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  9. Oh how very sad ...

    Please give Bly a hug from me and tell him that you and his dad are going to take care to be around a long long time ..

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  10. I think you're right about losing people young. We think we're going to have a long time with our loved ones and it's just not a sure thing. It's always stunning when we expect them to be there and they're not.

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  11. hugs to you all. loss is always hard but compounded makes it even worse.
    thanks for the name it fits perfectly her name is katie jolene :)

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  12. Very sad indeed. My son would be freaking out if this happened to two of his friends.

    Really reminds you to live in the moment!

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  13. I am astonished at the timing of these deaths, the fact that the mothers were roommates in the maternity ward and well, it was surprising to hear.
    Of course Bly is upset. This has happened to not just one but two of his friends. It's very sad.

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  14. Poor Bly! What an awful series of events for him to experience.

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  15. That is eerie. Bly is learning to deal with death. Often there isn't much exposure in childhood. (All my great aunts and uncles were old as were my grandparents, and I'd been to 24 funeral by age 10.) And it's even worse when those dying are younger. This is a tough one for a young guy.

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